So it’s been a bit of a long while friends, between juggling too many balls from a work front and trying to move to a new home I hardly found time to write. It has been a blessed season though, these are good problems to have. I hope you all have been keeping well and truly counting your blessings too J. I must be honest, besides trying to find time between a “busy” life I have also been contemplating whether I should or should not write about my feelings towards our latest buzz word or slang, the “Blesser”.
To those that may have not been exposed just yet, a “blesser” is a South African slang which is a term used to refer to a rich man who offers support (typically financial and material) to a younger female companion in exchange for sex, friendship, etc.(Urban Dictionary definition ). The blesser word is basically derived from a blessing.
A blessing as many of us know it is a biblical word, a public declaration of favor from God. Before the word was hijacked, the blessings we know are only from God, even when we receive them through others they are still from God and are symbolic of His favour. We receive them as a result of our status or standing with God. A very good example is in Genesis 22:17 -18 where after He (God) tested Abraham and he passed the test God said “17 I will surely bless you and make your descendants as numerous as the stars in the sky and as the sand on the seashore. Your descendants will take possession of the cities of their enemies, and through your offspring[b] all nations on earth will be blessed,[c] because you have obeyed me.”
Yes some of the blessings may come in a form of materialistic things, but the common thread is the supernatural intervention that has happened for us to receive that which we call a blessing. It is this supernatural intervention that makes me uncomfortable about calling any human being my blesser or a blesser.
I chatted with a friend about the concept recently and she reckoned I was taking the whole blesser thing too seriously, I think she is right; I am taking it quite serious. I bit my tongue so many times wanting to talk about my feelings towards this definition but felt so constrained by my own beliefs or doctrine if you want to call it that. The bible says we must not judge and of course reminding us of this is the quickest way to get us Christians to shut up. Truth is I despise the “blesser” reference of men who buy younger girls things of material value in exchange for sex and I resent that because we are imperfect Christians we can’t be vocal about how we feel about this disrespect.
And so I will own my imperfections, accept and be happy that anyone may call them out if it bothers them. I am nowhere near perfection but I am much closer to my maker to feel the offence, and that’s probably the only reason I feel strongly about penning this down. Indeed we could decide to sit and let you have a go at it, maybe even choose to never to use the word again because it no longer means what it meant; but we can also decide to claim it back and tell you why it’s important and sacred to us.
As I retire from the subject, I do hope what you take out of this piece is not an attempt to minimize or disqualify materialistic blessings (heaven knows, those are important too), but only an attempt to caution us on the careless acceptance of any social colloquial words or phrases that come along… just because everyone thinks it’s cool does not make it cool, not if we lose the true meaning of what means much to us.
Despite the many blessings I have received from God recently, I have been feeling constrained from proclaiming the blessings because of the discomfort of the unnatural materialistic association and trivial connotations we let society dictate to us. This to me is about reclaiming the true meaning as I know it.
Deuteronomy 7:13 “He will love you, bless you, and multiply you. He will also bless the fruit of your womb and the fruit of your ground, your grain and your wine and your oil, the increase of your herds and the young of your flock, in the lan
d that he swore to your fathers to give you.”
Yes I am #Blessed and #Jesusismyblesser therefore I am #JCBlessed
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LM
Quench My Thirst 
Heart warming piece Lungie 🙂 Exactly how i feel about the term and how loosely it is being used… We live in sad times indeed.. where morals are at the ultimate low… quite frightening to think of it.. The onus is on the few of us .. to hold the touch up high.. if not for our own children bt for those who have eyes and ears sharp enough to hear and see/read ..
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