So the past Thursday I was invited to share my thoughts and experience and whatever the Lord inspired me to talk about underpinning the topic as I answer a few questions apparently single people navigate and battle with in their Christian journey especially around this time.

One of the reasons I love the Word Alive platform is the dynamic(ness) of the word of God in that Bible Study group and that really gives someone like me who likes to be true to self and practical about her own relationship with God the freedom to be vulnerable. 

Because of the feedback to share the points I spoke to around the questions; I decided to also share this here on the Quench My Thirst Blog. The flow will be as per the questions as this was more of a discussion based on questions but something I think could also help other young people and parents of young people to frame the discussions that don’t always have a safe space to tackle.

1. Navigating my Christians Life as a Single Person

  • First being single is normal as a Christian. It is part of a human journey. You are complete in Him (Col 2:10)
  • This is a season where you discover your identity and purpose in Christ
  • Use singleness purposefully but do not hide behind service. 
  • ⁠Trust God for your future. 
  • Do not make singleness a disability, continue to pursue God and the purpose He has for you outside of marriage parameters you have put for yourself.

2. ⁠Can I Achieve Purpose as a Single Person?

  • Well according to scripture our purpose is to know Christ and reflect Him. (Eph 2:10, Matt 22:37-39 , John 13: 35)
  • We are called to have a relationship with God and do everything to glorify Him (1 Cor 10:31)
  • To know Him, Love Him and represent Him on earth.

            So what do we need to achieve purpose?

  • A platform or vehicle to spread God’s love, the great commission.
  • We need God’s love itself and His grace
  •  He says in John 10:10 He came that we may have life in abundance not in marriage but in Him. 
  •  Purpose is not just a career, marriage or success outside of Christ. Purpose is a relationship that transforms and impacts. 
  • ⁠Jesus fulfilled His purpose unmarried and that is the ultimate purpose lived we have ever seen. 

3. ⁠ Pressures of Being Single in the church

  • Hurry up and get married, many single Christians feel incomplete without marriage in the church.
  •  ⁠Marriage being idolised and seen as a rubber stamp of being blessed, but scripture says there is time for everything, a season for every activity under the heavens (Eccl 3:1)
  •  ⁠Marriage is God’s design not man, it is therefore found in God and founded in Him.
  • Feeling incomplete because church culture tends to make singleness feel like the ‘waiting room’, Col 2:10 says you are complete in God. Therefore you should not be waiting to be married to fulfil your God given purpose.
  •  ⁠Loneliness and comparison- while the bible says it is not good for a man to be alone, single Christians need to know that they can build communities and connections around them that are not only romantic but communal sisterhood and brotherhood through their Christian communities.
  • Sexual and emotional pressures. Single people do struggle with desires, boundaries and temptations. What they can do to manage this is to flee as the bible tells us in 1Cor 6: 18-19. Acknowledge the feeling and desire and build strategies around yourself to maintain your purity. Matt 5:8 says blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God. 

I just shared my high level points as a conversation starter for singles and parents who are navigating bringing up young people who go through phases that make them feel incomplete, wanting and being pressured to doing.

To the singles, my sincere love note to you is remain pure, purity is not overrated. Stay pure and you shall see God.

Thank God Jesus pursued me

LM

Lungie@quenchmythirst.life